My favorite wedding blog, both as I was planning my own wedding and now, is A Practical Wedding. A Practical Wedding is about just that: practicality. And sanity. And love.
The founder of A Practical Wedding, Meg, has a lot of good advice to give. Your wedding is not just about you. It’s about you, your partner, you family, and your guests. You can throw a fabulous wedding with any amount of money. You don’t need to follow traditions if you don’t like them. Your wedding is not a photoshoot (that one stings a little, but it’s true). Your wedding is not the important thing. Your marriage is the important thing.
Meg is a supporter of all weddings, for all people. Gay weddings, elopements, potlucks, destination weddings, traditional bashes, you name it. If it’s what you want, and you’re doing it in a way that makes you and the people around you happy, Meg is happy. I feel the same way.
In order to advertise on A Practical Wedding, vendors must sign a legally binding agreement called the Sanity Pledge. I’m not yet an advertiser, but I wanted to state, here and now, that I am 100% behind the Sanity Pledge, which reads as follows:
All APW-approved vendors agree that:
… A wedding is an awesome party, but it’s the marriage that really matters.
… It takes two people to get married. It’s not all about the bride (and sometimes there isn’t a bride to begin with).
… We support LGBTQ couples right to marry, and we are delighted to work with them.
… We don’t charge a premium just because we heard the word “wedding.”
… We will be upfront and fair about our pricing. We won’t surprise you with a secret fee because you want frosting on the cake, not just the cake.
… You don’t have to have cake at your wedding.
… However you decided to tie the knot, we’re on your team.
… Weddings come in all different shapes/sizes/colors/budgets/etc., but as long as you two end up married to each other, it will have been a successful wedding.
I truly believe and stand behind every part of that pledge, and I feel that it is important to share. I think that sometimes couples getting married and vendors can get caught up in the whirlwind that is weddings. Couples want everything to be perfect and amazing. Vendors want to make money, and they want to do their job well so that they’ll get future clients. But the most important thing is that on the day of a wedding, two people have chosen to stand in front of their friends and family (or sit by themselves in the woods) and promise to love each other forever. Everything else is extra. My job, as I see it, is to capture images of that love and joy so couples can share the memories with their families for the rest of their lives. And I intend to do that job practically. And sanely. And with an awful lot of love.
Oh, and if you just read the pledge and you’re saying to yourself “Yes! These things are true! Why doesn’t everyone think like this?” then you need to make your way over to APW and get to know the place. You’re going to love it there.